Perspectives to Consider

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For those of us who seek to honor the authority of Scripture in our decision-making processes, we know we shouldn’t be sloppy in how we interpret its words. I’d say that is especially true when it comes to issues that drastically affect peoples’ wellbeing and the trajectory of their whole lives.

With that conviction held tightly, I’ve been studying how to best interpret Scripture’s guidance on LGBTQ issues for several years. I continually find that there is more to learn about all of this than I previously realized. My older theology was often massively simplistic and shallow, and sometimes poorly reasoned. Nevertheless, it was all I was exposed to for a very long time in the circles I swim in.

Because my studies had only gone to a certain extent, I simply didn’t know what I didn’t know. The supposedly “plain reading” of the text could only get me so far. To my own detriment and to the detriment of those I sought to influence, I was responsible for my own lack of interest in actually taking a deeper look at what the Good Book really says and means.

In the past couple weeks I decided to revisit this subject once again and go another layer deeper in my own research. So I read these two books, both about how to discern what approaches Scripture actually calls us to take on navigating LGBTQ controversies. Continue reading Perspectives to Consider

a (semi-)quick update

I thought I’d give a little update on life since I came out and subsequently got fired from my job:

Originally, I thought I’d feel embarrassed after coming out. I figured I’d “recoil” — wanting to hide from the world for a while. I assumed I’d have to push fairly hard for a while to get past my insecurity, wishing I could still cover that part of myself (particularly around other guy friends who I want to try extra hard to fit in with). I was bracing myself to face some difficult emotional work to move through.

When I made my original post though, I felt surprisingly self-assured about it. I went to bed that night filled with the most tangible joy — but expected I’d regret my decision later after the dopamine high faded. Continue reading a (semi-)quick update

Addressing the Deeper Needs

I genuinely appreciate conversations about developing ethical sexual boundaries. However, I am much more interested in conversations about emotional and relational wholeness. Sexual boundaries make a lot more sense and are a lot more viable for those with healthy hearts and attachments. The God-who-is-Love generally prioritizes addressing these issues at the core of who we are, in my personal experience. To use Jesus’ metaphor — He cleans the inside of the cup, rather than merely polishing its outer surface.
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That being mentioned, I want to highlight two profoundly beautiful books that deal with precisely these topics. Both are written by Christian gay men like myself, who have had to wrestle through working to find a measure of meaningful intimacy and belonging outside of conventional romantic partnerships and nuclear families. Without painting an overly idealistic picture of the situation, both have also found that the Church can itself serve as a life-giving chosen-family that effectively provides much of these needs.
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Whether you’re gay or straight, single or coupled, or even whether you’re a believer or not — I think these two books could greatly benefit anyone who has unmet emotional and relational longings. The stories and essays within them are filled with the kind of precious gems of insight that are worth carefully mining and treasuring in reflection multiple times over.….
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No Longer Strangers – Greg Coles
Spiritual Friendship – Wesley Hill
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